What sometimes drives humans to take a photo of themselves and post it on social media is self-love. Human beings want to be loved and appreciated. Everyone eagerly waits for likes and comments to show up after posting a #selfie on Facebook. Our pictures say “Look at me, this is who I am” and the more likes we get the more it boosts our self esteem.
But what if somebody commented on my photo and noticed the bad angle or the smudge of lipstick in the corners of my lips? What if nobody liked my picture except for my little niece?
When I was younger, I created an anonymous blog full of rants and whines. How disgusted I was by human behavior. How upset I was by criticisms and insult. It was mostly all about my distaste and rage for particular subjects. As I read them today, I’ve figured why I was always unhappy is because I was often focusing on own thoughts and preferences. “This is me, me, me, me. I am so annoyed because nobody is good enough!”
I realized I was being self-absorbed. Extremely valuing our own opinions and interests and showing little concern for other’s ideas and feelings are characteristics of self-absorption. I became defensive when hearing negative feedback instead of trying to understand another’s perspective. I had a tendency to blame others when something went wrong instead of thinking what I should have done. “This is me, me, me, me. Take it or leave it.”
I want to be a person God wants me to be so I decided to let go of my old self.
The world doesn’t revolve around me. There are billions of living things in this planet and I am just one of them. We are all equal in the sight of the Lord. I exist just like you and anyone else. After all, it’s not all about me, neither you.
“If anyone thinks there are something when they are not, they deceive themselves.” -Galatians 6:3 (NIV)
When someone hurt me I nurtured deep hatred for that person and focused immensely on how hurt I was. How broken and devastated I was. I self-pitied but hey, we should stop assuming that we are always the victim. Try to put ourselves in their shoes so we can understand why they behave and think that way. Were there also times that you did things that hurt others? Thinking of ourselves less is becoming more like Christ (remember he died for you) which is exactly He wants us to be.
God wants us to be like Him because we are His children.
“If you forgive others the wrongs they have done to you, your Father in heaven will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive the wrongs you have done.” -Matthew 6:14-16 (GNT)
“Instead, be kind and tender-hearted to one another, and forgive one another, as God has forgiven you through Christ.” -Ephesians 4:32 (GNT)
I am posting these things not just to preach to you but to myself as well. I am still battling selfishness and self-righteousness. I’m flawed but forgiven by God so that I can forgive others. Difficult but possible. I’m not loving nor caring and I am full of bitterness in my heart but I let God take over.
“And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart.” -Ezekiel 36:26 (NLT)
I should always remind myself that it’s not all about me but Jesus.
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